I absolutely love the analogy that Elder Bednar shares. When I think of my marriage, I think of the covenants that not only I've made with my husband, but also the covenants that we have made with our Father in Heaven. They are very sacred covenants to me. I whole heartedly agree that marriage is between, wife, husband and the Lord.
The Family: A Proclamation to the World, states: "WE, THE FIRST PRESIDENCY and the Council of the Twelve Apostles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, solemnly proclaim that marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children." Might I add some exclamation points after that, phrase! It has been PROCLAIMED by prophets of God, that it is ordained of God and central to His plan. Is our faith sufficient that we follow and believe our prophets? Without a doubt! I have a firm testimony of the importance of families. The family existed before we entered this mortal existence and it will continue after our time here is done.
I have learned that a marriage relationship can not be neglected. It's funny to think about it now, but I truly thought of marriage as a fairy tale. You find your handsome prince and you get married and live happily ever after. Well, let me just say, marriage can be difficult, it takes humility, patience, unconditional love, forgiveness, and a whole lot of hard work. Just even doing the little extra out of the ordinary things makes a big difference. I have been focusing more on putting the effort into letting my hubby know that I love him and let me tell you the difference it makes. It brings happiness to both of us. If you are married, I would invite you to stop thinking about what your spouse is or is not doing for you and focus more on what you can do for your spouse. I can testify that by focusing on improving my relationship with both my Savior and my spouse it has brought more joy into my life.
For those who are still looking for their eternal companion, I know that at times you may feel like you are loosing hope. I have friends and family members who are in this very spot and it is mind boggling to me, that these amazing people have yet to find someone. But there is always hope, never give it up. I had the opportunity to listen to Sister Nelson (President Nelson's wife), this year at a training. What a remarkable women!! She had been single until she married President Nelson when she was in her 50's. Let me just say that our Heavenly Father is helping to prepare each of us for something. As we draw closer to Him and submit our will to His, He will help us to reach that potential.
No matter what stage we are in our lives we can be defenders of marriage. As well as continually strive for a closer relationship with our Savior.